Thursday, June 20, 2013

the empty truth of life

today is my friends' anniversary. i know both the guy and the girl equally. they have been married 20 years. they have one kid.

i guess a few years ago, he strayed from the marriage. i guess the wife got too involved with raising the child and was ignoring her husband. plus, he's kind of a jerk. i guess they worked through it, but their relationship isn't one that i strive to emulate. it seems that they just exist on separate planes of entitlement and homeschooling.

anyway, today they posted on FB, "Today makes 20 years of marriage to <wife's name here>. Happy anniversary, my darling! I was right, hasn't been boring yet." she replies to his post with "He gets the award. All this time, I think I am the one that added terrifying twists and turns. I love you so, <pet name here>."

on her FB feed, she posts, "20 years ago in this very house, my matron of honor found me in a bathroom, stalled with curlers stuck haphazardly in my hair. It was around 40° and an outdoor wedding. I was in shock after what might have been 50 unexpected problems. I had not been getting ready with less than 2 hours to go. But then as I married my best friend and the love of my life it all turned out fine. For all this time <husband's name here>, you have been the prize at the end of every difficult day."

and i think, this is all bullshit.

i have never seen them affectionate towards each other. she's about 100+ lbs overweight and he's a boorish pig. they have an amazingly annoying precocious child that can speak 400 languages and can do Organic Chem in her sleep... she's 10. 

their anniversary wailings are just for the pleasure of attention from their friends. i don't think they know the meaning of love anymore than my husband does, but they remain together because no one else would have them. and maybe my husband feels that way. but i don't. i don't have to stay in a loveless marriage because i am afraid of being alone. i don't have to put up with fake, boring bullshit because no one else will ever love me. and even if D wasn't in the picture, i would go off on my own. 

people's disingenuous ramblings of love and togetherness make me want to barf. stop fooling yourselves. you're the only ones who are falling for it. 

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